How studying the Enneagram has helped me as a small business owner?



The Loyalist

So, you may have heard the buzz about this thing called the Enneagram. In short, it's an ancient personality profiler and I've been fascinated by it!

After some study, self-reflection, and conversations with my husband I finally found the number I most identify with -- the 6w5 (6 wing 5). I learned that the Six is known for being fearful (which wasn't very encouraging). I also learned about the motivations behind the Six's behavior and decision making. Here's where things really started to get impactful for me. Check it out:

"Key Motivations [of type 6]: Want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.

Holy heck has this persona been spying on me through our Alexa? Back when Matt and I were dating we were in couples counseling and I discovered one of my main needs in our relationship was to feel secure. Sound familiar? But, how does this relate to me as a business owner?

1. It has helped me take risks. Okay, calculated risks.

When I finally acknowledged that fear is something that fuels many of my responses, anxiety, and defensiveness I had resolution to make: I would not let fear hold me back. The whole reason I launched my business full-time was because of this resolution. I had promised myself that I would live out my word for 2018: "unafraid".

2. I developed empathy.

Understanding myself (the good and the bad) has helped me to have more empathy for others. Understanding why I am the way I am helps me realize that others have their reasons too. They may be different than mine, but we are all motivated by something.

3. I created structure.

I used to feel this never ceasing urge to always be working; I needed to feel like things were happening. Not having an employer that guarantees your paycheck on the 1st and 15th, is literally the least secure thing. But, working nonstop is no sustainable so I needed to create structure and systems that helped me feel confident in my business plan, so that I could feel secure in something. This structure helps me sleep at night and take days off.

If you made it this far, you deserve a major applause. I am still learning and discovering more about myself. I've been learning that while the Enneagram is a good tool, discovering yourself is a journey.

Resources for continued learning about the Enneagram:

The Road Back to You by Ian Cron & Suzanne Stabile
The Road Back to You Podcast
Typology Podcast
The Enneagram Journey Podcast

I need your help.

charlotte photographer

To my community,

There is an unrest I have felt for months now. A call to use my gift in photography to bring awareness to evil in this world and connect people with ways they can help. It’s hard to know where to start, but maybe you can help.

Last year around this time it came to my attention that child marriage is still legal here in the United States. So, I did what I usually do and I took to Google. I found one organization here in the US that is centered around changing to these marriage laws.

"Child marriage is legal in the U.S., and an estimated 248,000 children as young as 12 were married here between 2000 and 2010. Almost all were girls wed to adult men." via Unchained At Last

Women Empowerment is something I am passionate about; helping young women see their beauty, worth, and potential. In the last year, this organization has made huge strides to help change the laws, mentor young women, and offer free representation in court to help them safely end the forced contract.

As my professor taught me, I am taking a stand for something I feel pulled toward, but I need your help. I am looking for women of all ages from 12-99+ for a photo series to shed on light on this issue in order further protect the innocence and childhood of young women in the US and worldwide. Will you daughter help me take a stand for girls who don't have anyone standing for them?

Other ways you can help if you’re not located in Charlotte:

  • Donate a “wedding dress” or veil, or find a dress or veil to donate at a Thrift store. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just needs to be a white formal dress.



I always thought that goodness in the world would awaken me to my highest spiritual self. But, it’s evil that has taught me the most; that has brought me to advocate for innocence so fiercely.
— Shannon Sedgwick Davis